Things to consider as you make your safety plan.  

• How can someone get in or out of your home?

• Are there weapons in the house?

• Where are the phones?

• Where/how can you charge your phone if needed?

• Can you keep a cell phone on you at all times?

• What rooms have locked doors?

• Is there something to put in front of a door to keep them out or slow them down so you have time to escape?

• Where are your closest exits in every room?

• What happens when they get angry?

• What time of the day does the abuse happen?

• Who is close by and can hear you?

• What neighbors can you go to?

• Who is home around you when the abuse happens?

• How close is the nearest police or fire station?

• Where is the closest business?

• What businesses are open when the abuse usually happens?

• Do you have a car that you can get to?

• Are there dogs or other pets to get out or that can cause safety issues?

• Is there anyone around that may keep you from getting to safety?

• Are you alone?

• Where are the children when it happens?

• Can you get the children to safety?

We are not telling you to leave or stay in your relationship. If you reach a place where leaving, even for a short time, is the best option, here are some things to think about as you are working through your safety plan.

Packing a go bag

Deciding to leave your home may be difficult. Packing a go bag with things you need and essential items can help you in the days that follow. Here are some things to consider:

• You may be at risk if you pack and your abuser finds your bag or suitcase before you leave.  

  • Think of a place to hide your go bag where it is out of sight, but you can get to it when needed

  • Somewhere in your home or at another location you can easily get to (work, gym, family member or friend’s home)

  • Pack in something your partner wouldn’t expect like an old suitcase, gym bag, shipping box, old diaper bag or even a backpack.

  • Instead of packing, keep your “go bag” items in a specific drawer. Pick a few outfits and put them together in your closet and put essential items (see list below) in the pockets. You can grab what you need quickly if the time comes.

What to take

• Car keys-an extra set if you have them

• A cell phone and charger-any cell phone that has power can call 911

• A bottle of water and a snack

• If you have children or pets, a snack, toy or blanket to comfort them

• A change of clothes, socks, and underwear

• Depending on where you live and the season, a sweatshirt or jacket

• Shoes

These are suggestions, not requirements. You can leave without packing a bag and packing a bag doesn’t mean you have to leave.

You may not be able to pack your essential items in advance. Some, like medication, or your driver’s license, may be used frequently so cannot be stored away. Others, like your passport or money may be missed if you move them from their usual storage place. If you are packing just in case, are things you many not be able to pack in advance but you should take as many of these things as applicable:

• Order of Protection and other important legal documents

• ATM card, money/cab fare, check book, credit card,  

• Passport, green card, work permit, public Assistance ID

• Driver’s license & registration

• Social security card

• Medications

Finding Support

Whatever you are experiencing, know it is not your fault. No one deserves to be abused. Plan to be safe.  Seek the help and guidance of a spiritual leader, domestic violence advocate, police or safety officer, friend or family member. Know you are loved and help is here if you need us.